This post is part of our 30 Days to a Better Dating Life series, a 30-Day challenge to help you transform your dating life. Not ready for week two? See the full challenge or check out week one, or continue onto week three, four, or five.
Week Two: Profile Update
Welcome back to Week Two! Week Two is all about putting your best foot forward. Now that you’ve gained clarity on your dating goals and desires, it’s time to level up your online dating game. This week, we’ll focus on creating a compelling profile that truly reflects who you are and what you’re looking for. Get ready to choose the right platform, snap some stunning photos, and craft a profile that shines. Let’s make you irresistible!
You can download the pages for this week here or just get started with the daily prompts below.
Let’s get started!
Day 8: Choose a Platform
With so many dating apps and websites available, it’s important to choose a platform that aligns with your values, interests, and relationship goals. Explore different options and choose one that resonates with you. Consider the type of people you’re hoping to connect with, the features and functionalities that are important to you, and the overall vibe and community of each platform.
- Journal Prompt: Which dating platform feels most aligned with your dating goals and values? What are the pros and cons of each platform you’re considering?
- Exercise: “Platform Pros and Cons” – A list of pros and cons for different dating apps.
By carefully selecting a platform, you’ll be setting yourself up for success in connecting with people who share your interests and values.
Day 9: New Picture Day
Your profile pictures are the first impression you make on potential matches, so it’s important to choose photos that showcase your personality and best qualities. Select photos that are recent, flattering, and reflect your authentic self.
- Journal Prompt: What message do you want your profile pictures to convey? What aspects of your personality do you want to highlight?
- Exercise: “Assess Your Pictures” – Check that your photos follow best guidelines for dating profile photos.
By curating a selection of photos that represent your authentic self, you’ll attract others who appreciate you for who you are.
Day 10: Get Strategic
Crafting a compelling dating profile is an art, and approaching it strategically can make all the difference. Consider the kind of person you want to attract and tailor your profile accordingly. Highlight your unique qualities, interests, and values in a way that is both engaging and informative.
- Journal Prompt: What are your goals for online dating? How can you use your profile to achieve those goals?
- Exercise: “Grabbing Attention” – What kinds of things draw you to others profiles? What are you most attracted to? Try to replicate these qualities in your own profile (don’t copy!)
By strategically crafting your profile, you’ll attract the attention of people who resonate with your authentic self and are seeking similar connections.
Day 11: Profile Writing Challenge
Now it’s time to put your thoughts into words and craft a profile that captures attention and sparks interest. Be genuine, engaging, and specific in your writing. Share anecdotes, express your passions, and avoid clichés or generic statements.
- Journal Prompt: Write a draft of your new profile. Focus on being authentic, engaging, and specific.
- Exercise: “Profile Assessment” – Look at your dating profile. Go through the following checklist and make sure your prompts and profiles follows best guidelines.
By putting effort into your profile, you’ll demonstrate that you’re serious about finding a meaningful connection and attract others who value authenticity and intentionality.
Day 12: Message Brainstorm
Ditch the generic “hey” messages and craft opening lines that spark curiosity and demonstrate genuine interest. Personalize your messages, ask engaging questions, and show that you’ve taken the time to read the other person’s profile.
- Journal Prompt: What are some creative and engaging ways to start conversations with potential matches?
- Exercise: “Out of Character” – Send some messages that are out of character for you. If you’re normally serious, send some flirty messages. If you’re normally flirty, send a serious message. See what happens.
By crafting thoughtful and engaging messages, you’ll increase your chances of sparking meaningful conversations and building connections.
Day 13: Date Ideas Brainstorm
Think outside the box and brainstorm date ideas that align with your interests and encourage conversation and connection. Consider activities that allow you to showcase your personality and get to know your date in a fun and engaging way.
- Journal Prompt: What are some fun and unique date ideas that align with your interests?
- Exercise: “Date Ideas Brainstorm” – Create a list of date ideas, restaurants, bars, or other things you want to try.
By brainstorming creative date ideas, you’ll be prepared to suggest engaging activities that foster connection and create lasting memories.
Day 14: Start Swiping (Initial Impressions + Assess Platform)
It’s time to put your new profile to the test and start exploring the dating platform you’ve chosen. As you browse profiles and engage in initial interactions, pay attention to your gut feelings and assess whether the platform feels aligned with your expectations and desires.
- Journal Prompt: What are your initial impressions of the platform? Do you feel like you’re connecting with people who resonate with you?
- Exercise: “The Dating Funnel” – Estimate what percentage of your interactions get stuck at each stage (“Swipe, “Match”, “Message”, “Date”). Where are you getting stuck?
By actively engaging with the platform and reflecting on your experience, you’ll gain valuable insights into whether it’s the right fit for you and your dating goals.
End of Week Two
Congratulations on completing Week Two! You’ve officially leveled up your online dating game. You’ve chosen the perfect platform, curated photos that capture your essence, and crafted a profile that shines. Now, you’re ready to attract amazing matches and spark engaging conversations. But before we dive into that, let’s take a moment to celebrate your hard work and get ready to step into the next phase with confidence. In Week Three, we’ll focus on taking initiative, making connections, and navigating the dating world with grace and authenticity. Get ready to shine!